Living together with your significant other (SO) can be the greatest experience in the world... or the worst. There is no middle ground; Middle of the road couple would be boring and passionless. But like all things in life, it is a rewarding experience if you can handle it. It may be intense for some and enlightening to others, but every one will walk away having learned something.
1. Acceptance
No matter how confident you seem to others, there will always be moments of self-doubt. That's normal. It's usually when we do something we think is embarassing in front of others. But your SO doesn't care and will accept you anyways.
2. It's a commitment
There is no refunds. No moving out with two weeks notice. Nothing. You are in it for the long run. If you crave stability, security, and the marriage life, then this is for you. Otherwise, you will find it tedious and impossible. Can you imagine hating the person you wake up to everyday?
3. Sexual preferences
Jeff Foxworthy said in his standup that he wouldn't cheat on his wife because he knows the combination to her lock. Why learn a new one? He is absolutely right. After living together for a month or two, you should know your SO's every like and dislike. Result? Better sex.
4. Future?
What about the future? Marriage? Kids? How many? These questions need answers. Last thing you want is to find out 3 years down the road that your SO doesn't like kids, can't stand them, and will eat them if he/she can. Now's the real dilemma. Will you stay with your 3 year investment, or will you let your SO destroy your dreams?
5. Friends and Family Plan
What friends to keep? What family to socialize with? You will most likely have to stop hanging out with your wild cousin or your slutty sister and her friends. They are considered those people now.
6. It desensitizes you to break-ups.
Let's say you live with your SO and it doesn't work out. You have just experienced a mini-divorce. Too many of these and eventually you won't care anymore.
At the end of it all, each relationship helps mold your image of "The One," that one person you were destined for. If you live together, it helps mold your ideal marriage. Eventually, you'll know exactly what you want, what you can handle, and what you can stand in any relationship. Sometimes, you'll find that what you want is not what you need, and vice versa. But before you make any major decisions, always keep in mind that living together is only a step away from engagement, two steps away from marriage, and an accident away from a family.
Happy domesticating!
2. It's a commitmentThere is no refunds. No moving out with two weeks notice. Nothing. You are in it for the long run. If you crave stability, security, and the marriage life, then this is for you. Otherwise, you will find it tedious and impossible. Can you imagine hating the person you wake up to everyday?3. Sexual preferencesJeff Foxworthy said in his standup that he wouldn't cheat on his wife because he knows the combination to her lock. Why learn a new one? He is absolutely right. After living together for a month or two, you should know your SO's every like and dislike. Result? Better sex.
4. Future?What about the future? Marriage? Kids? How many? These questions need answers. Last thing you want is to find out 3 years down the road that your SO doesn't like kids, can't stand them, and will eat them if he/she can. Now's the real dilemma. Will you stay with your 3 year investment, or will you let your SO destroy your dreams?5. Friends and Family PlanWhat friends to keep? What family to socialize with? You will most likely have to stop hanging out with your wild cousin or your slutty sister and her friends. They are considered those people now.6. It desensitizes you to break-ups.Let's say you live with your SO and it doesn't work out. You have just experienced a mini-divorce. Too many of these and eventually you won't care anymore.At the end of it all, each relationship helps mold your image of "The One," that one person you were destined for. If you live together, it helps mold your ideal marriage. Eventually, you'll know exactly what you want, what you can handle, and what you can stand in any relationship. Sometimes, you'll find that what you want is not what you need, and vice versa. But before you make any major decisions, always keep in mind that living together is only a step away from engagement, two steps away from marriage, and an accident away from a family.Happy domesticating!
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